Vanity Weight (girls oppinons?)

[cappleear]

I've always struggled with my weight a bit in a very superficial manor. I think most girls at some point or another are insecure about how they look.
I've never been over weight, I've never been extremely underweight. I've been blessed with a naturally shapely body a bit top heavy and small frame. I'm 37-25-34, and not to show off or compare to anyone, but thats what I am. My sister is adopted and she is very thin and not very shapely. We always wish we had the other's body... grass is greener I suppose.
My normal weight was 113-115 at 5'3" and since it started getting cold I put on a solid 5-7 pounds. Normally when I hit 120 on the scale I go on a crash diet and refuse to eat until I go back to my normal weight. That is extremely unhealthy and stupid, I know. So this time I've been eating healthier and actually eating 3 meals a day and learned to love yogurt (I use to hate it). But the poundage isn't budging. I wonder though if I should just be happy, my chest is actually a bit fuller now, and I still have a flat stomach, but I feel fatter and I hate it. Its not a constant feeling, I have moment when I feel good about myself, but usually because other people say something nice about me. I want to feel good about me without outside influences.
This is stupid, and I'm ashamed I feel this way especially with out reason. I see heavy girls who are happy in their skin and I'd trade my shape in a second just to feel that way.

Is there any women here who have the same feelings or use to as me? How do you gain confidence about how you look? Is it just an age thing?

I know when I'm 40 and had a kid or something I'm going to smack myself in the face for not appreciating when I'm young and pretty. And if this whole post seems really idiotic to you, I know, and don't respond. Let me have my little vent.

[Frogger]

5'11, 168 lb babe!!!

[Wee Willy Winkie]

Fat is bad, keep it under control or your man will leave you and you will have no worth to society. Fact.

[xsuzie]

When i was little, i wanted implants and i wanted to be white, and i wanted to look like barbie. then when i got older i thought i was ugly and fat and dumb, and i'd drink one diet pepsi and have dinner, and thats all every day.
now i sorta like my body. im curvy and i have a belly, but my bf loves my thighs and stuff so, i love em too. i like curves. they make clothes look better if you pick the right ones.
=)

[420BongTokes]

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, springs to mind. I know I'm male but your posts reminds me so much of my girlfriend. Shes 5'2 and 8 1/2 st. She is always going on that she doesn't like her body and how she has flabby bits she doesn't like. But ill say the same to you as her. Look how big some people are...Still feel fat ? Now look at an anorexic person... Still wanna be smaller ?. I know people want to look how they want to look, because they think how they want to look is more beautiful and more sexy, w.e but it really doesn't matter because there is always someone who will find you beautiful, and love you regardless of what you think about yourself. Although, if you don't feel confident and "sometimes feel fatter" try some crunches or some other form of exercise to tone up your stomach. Hope this helped a little

[Blistik]

I don't think any of us girls are ever truly satisfied with our bodies. From the sounds of it though, you're a perfectly healthy weight. The next time you get down on yourself, try thinking about the people out there that are so huge they take up 2 seats on a train, or can't buy clothes, or are completely bedridden because of their weight.

Something I will add about the crash dieting: The next time you even think about it, remember this. When you starve your body, it actually learns to STORE fat. So while you think you're losing weight by not eating, you're teaching your body that this could happen again soon, and it takes it upon itself to start stocking up on fat for next time you put it into starvation mode. If you really want to shift those pounds, STOP THE CRASH DIETING. Not only are you setting yourself up for failure, but you're doing irrepairable damage to vital organs as well as teeth, hair etc (I'm sure you know).

A lot of people put on weight in the colder months, it's normal. We're not as active as we are in the warmer months, we tend to eat more, and again, the body goes..shit it's cold, better stock up on some fat supplies. Keep up the healthy eating (even eat 6 small meals a day instead of 3 solid meals), be active for at least 30 mins a day (walk, treadmill, anything that gets the heart rate up), and be happy you're alive and well and not dying of AIDS in a foreign country where no one gives a crap

[Sailor Ness]

I think most females feel this way, i myself would have loved to be a natural size 8(nz) when I was younger and would try various methods to lose the kg's.

At one stage I did lose a large amount of weight, sad thing was i felt so shit that i was bedridden and my boyfriend at the time said I looked "disgusting" I also couldnt see the difference! people were quite worried and it wasnt intill I look back at photos that I can see, and jeez I looked like shit because im naturally bigger and being tiny just makes me look like a junky.

These days im quite happy with myself - I still keep my weight under watch as i cant stand feeling frumpy, but if I do start feeling so I maybe cut down on certain foods and go for a walk or a swim.

And you are right, when you are 40 with kids you will look back and scream "CURSES!" because I know I do lol unless your one of those genetically blessed women who can pop out the kids without stretchmarks of a mummy tummy.

[bgirl]

If all else fails you could vomit after meals.

[1023]

Originally Posted by cappleear

I've always struggled with my weight a bit in a very superficial manor. I think most girls at some point or another are insecure about how they look.
I've never been over weight, I've never been extremely underweight. I've been blessed with a naturally shapely body a bit top heavy and small frame. I'm 37-25-34, and not to show off or compare to anyone, but thats what I am. My sister is adopted and she is very thin and not very shapely. We always wish we had the other's body... grass is greener I suppose.
My normal weight was 113-115 at 5'3" and since it started getting cold I put on a solid 5-7 pounds. Normally when I hit 120 on the scale I go on a crash diet and refuse to eat until I go back to my normal weight. That is extremely unhealthy and stupid, I know. So this time I've been eating healthier and actually eating 3 meals a day and learned to love yogurt (I use to hate it). But the poundage isn't budging. I wonder though if I should just be happy, my chest is actually a bit fuller now, and I still have a flat stomach, but I feel fatter and I hate it. Its not a constant feeling, I have moment when I feel good about myself, but usually because other people say something nice about me. I want to feel good about me without outside influences.
This is stupid, and I'm ashamed I feel this way especially with out reason. I see heavy girls who are happy in their skin and I'd trade my shape in a second just to feel that way.

Is there any women here who have the same feelings or use to as me? How do you gain confidence about how you look? Is it just an age thing?

I know when I'm 40 and had a kid or something I'm going to smack myself in the face for not appreciating when I'm young and pretty. And if this whole post seems really idiotic to you, I know, and don't respond. Let me have my little vent.

i am recovering from bulimia, so i know how you feel. i am 5'8", and i normally weigh about 125. however, i prefer my weight to stay at about 110. my old man (bless his loving heart) likes me at about 135. to me, that is FAT, but he says i am healthy. it's hard, but i try to maintain that weight because he says i am much more beautiful like that. so, i get it.

[bgirl]

Ok, I feel guilty about the vomiting thing now. Laxatives work too.

[trixie128]

Bgoul, you're such a ugly sad person... make me a cake! shit, you could make the whole forum bread with your yeast infected roast beef sandwich of a pussy!

On topic: Im 5'6" 112lb. I work out 5-6 days a week and only eat good tasting stuff on Fri and Sat. It's hard but worth it.

[bgirl]

That's great, but it's too bad that all that working out, healthy eating, and plastic surgery isn't doing anything for the damage being done by the cigarettes and cheap booze.

[trixie128]

Originally Posted by bgirl

That's great, but it's too bad that all that working out, healthy eating, and plastic surgery isn't doing anything for the damage being done by the cigarettes and cheap booze.

keep following me around little doggy. you would know about decades of damage right?

[Sonya]

Originally Posted by cappleear

Is there any women here who have the same feelings or use to as me? How do you gain confidence about how you look? Is it just an age thing?

Maybe get your self some over-weight and unnattractive female friends to hang out with so you can be the hot one of the group?

I can't really relate to the weight thing, always been thin (on occasion too thin) and the one figure flaw I had was corrected years ago. But regardless, women will always focus on their flaws. Instead focus on your best attributes, and dress to highlight those, when you look in the mirror don't stare at the parts you dislike, admire the parts that you like.

Regarding the kids thing, yeah that can sometimes have nasty consequences. I worked with a woman that had a great shape, she was an ex-body builder. One day she showed me her stomach and ewwww....I was shocked, this huge wad of hanging saggy flesh. I felt bad for her, and never ever would have guessed. Poor thing was raising two kids and couldn't afford to have it fixed either. Of course it can also mangle their breasts quite badly.

[Mr. Yaag]

wait, ur 5'3" and think that 113 isn't fat or was that a typo cuz that's normal for a girl that's 6'3".